My brother is inspiration for this entry. He is sad lately because he does not have a girlfriend. He says he wants a girlfriend, not a "female friend".
I've talked with him about this and I even gave him my relationship story, but I'm not sure if he actually listened to his sister. (You who have siblings can relate!)
As I mentioned in an earlier blog, my most recent relationship lasted 3 months. It really was a "wake-up" relationship. I learned SO much about relationships from just 3 months!
From our very first date, we started dating exclusively. We met on May 24.
My grandfather's 85th birthday was on August 1. I took him to my grandfather's birthday. He met my ENTIRE dad's side of the family. I only knew a few basic things about him: his name, birthday, where he lived, all his brother's names, and where he worked. There's more and it gets better! After a mere 2 months, he told me "I love you". Because I didn't know him, I did not say it. Shoot, I wasn't even sure if I liked him!
I learned that you MUST be friends with someone before any romance starts. If you get "hot and heavy" early on in the relationship, it will end just as quickly.
Being friends with someone first is great because there is no pressure. You do not have to act like somone you're not. You can be yourself and the other person can be themself. If you BOTH have feelings for each other, then you can make the jump to boyfriend/girlfriend status. If one has feelings but the other does not, stay friends! Friendship is not a bad thing; everyone needs friends.
Saturday, November 7, 2009
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
Knowledge is power!!
Hi all. Again, this entry will be off topic but is important.
Right now, I am listening to a very interesting podcast. One of my friends practices a different religion from me. I am learning a lot from her podcast.
Even though it is a religion different from mine, I am learning a lot.
I am seeing many similarities between the two religions. I think people need to expand their knowledge. Knowledge in religion and in life. It expands your knowledge into other people's lives. I'm going to repeat myself, but I feel it's very important... Knowledge is power. Knowledge expands your knowledge of the world. You see how others see the world. You don't have to agree with them, or go with their views. Just knowing where they came from is important. And when you learn new things, you MAY see some similarities.
The topic I'm listening to is my friend telling her family & friends her religion.
Her experiences are interesting!
Until next time, expand your knowledge.
Right now, I am listening to a very interesting podcast. One of my friends practices a different religion from me. I am learning a lot from her podcast.
Even though it is a religion different from mine, I am learning a lot.
I am seeing many similarities between the two religions. I think people need to expand their knowledge. Knowledge in religion and in life. It expands your knowledge into other people's lives. I'm going to repeat myself, but I feel it's very important... Knowledge is power. Knowledge expands your knowledge of the world. You see how others see the world. You don't have to agree with them, or go with their views. Just knowing where they came from is important. And when you learn new things, you MAY see some similarities.
The topic I'm listening to is my friend telling her family & friends her religion.
Her experiences are interesting!
Until next time, expand your knowledge.
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
A very important relationship issue
Hi everyone. This entry will be a bit off topic again...
I have been reading the Bible lately. I am finding it VERY helpful to my life.
Right now I am reading a few remaining books in New Testament.
On Nov 2, I read Titus. It is short but gives you a lot to think about. A few lines talk about a key issue in relationships: trust.
"But avoid stupid arguments, long list of ancestors, quarrels, and fights about the Law. They are useless and worthless. Give at least two warnings to those who cause divisions, and then have nothing to do with them. You know that such people are corrupt, and their sins prove that they are wrong". (Titus 3:9-11)
When you are aware somone did something wrong, tell them. You bring it to their attention, when you tell them. If they forget, remind them a second time.
After you tell them, twice, they may realize that they did something wrong.
The key here is change and trust. If they apologize, you may want to continue the friendship/relationship... if you think they will change. If they do not apologize, and you don't think they will change, end the friendship/relationship. This may be hard to do, but it all boils down to trust. If trust gone, there is no friendship or relationship.
Do not automatically end the friendship/relationship based on one mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. If the person makes the same mistake twice, that's when you have to think. Do you think the other person will make the same mistake again?
And trust must be considered... Do you still trust the other person?
What do you think?
I have been reading the Bible lately. I am finding it VERY helpful to my life.
Right now I am reading a few remaining books in New Testament.
On Nov 2, I read Titus. It is short but gives you a lot to think about. A few lines talk about a key issue in relationships: trust.
"But avoid stupid arguments, long list of ancestors, quarrels, and fights about the Law. They are useless and worthless. Give at least two warnings to those who cause divisions, and then have nothing to do with them. You know that such people are corrupt, and their sins prove that they are wrong". (Titus 3:9-11)
When you are aware somone did something wrong, tell them. You bring it to their attention, when you tell them. If they forget, remind them a second time.
After you tell them, twice, they may realize that they did something wrong.
The key here is change and trust. If they apologize, you may want to continue the friendship/relationship... if you think they will change. If they do not apologize, and you don't think they will change, end the friendship/relationship. This may be hard to do, but it all boils down to trust. If trust gone, there is no friendship or relationship.
Do not automatically end the friendship/relationship based on one mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. If the person makes the same mistake twice, that's when you have to think. Do you think the other person will make the same mistake again?
And trust must be considered... Do you still trust the other person?
What do you think?
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