My brother is inspiration for this entry. He is sad lately because he does not have a girlfriend. He says he wants a girlfriend, not a "female friend".
I've talked with him about this and I even gave him my relationship story, but I'm not sure if he actually listened to his sister. (You who have siblings can relate!)
As I mentioned in an earlier blog, my most recent relationship lasted 3 months. It really was a "wake-up" relationship. I learned SO much about relationships from just 3 months!
From our very first date, we started dating exclusively. We met on May 24.
My grandfather's 85th birthday was on August 1. I took him to my grandfather's birthday. He met my ENTIRE dad's side of the family. I only knew a few basic things about him: his name, birthday, where he lived, all his brother's names, and where he worked. There's more and it gets better! After a mere 2 months, he told me "I love you". Because I didn't know him, I did not say it. Shoot, I wasn't even sure if I liked him!
I learned that you MUST be friends with someone before any romance starts. If you get "hot and heavy" early on in the relationship, it will end just as quickly.
Being friends with someone first is great because there is no pressure. You do not have to act like somone you're not. You can be yourself and the other person can be themself. If you BOTH have feelings for each other, then you can make the jump to boyfriend/girlfriend status. If one has feelings but the other does not, stay friends! Friendship is not a bad thing; everyone needs friends.
Saturday, November 7, 2009
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
Knowledge is power!!
Hi all. Again, this entry will be off topic but is important.
Right now, I am listening to a very interesting podcast. One of my friends practices a different religion from me. I am learning a lot from her podcast.
Even though it is a religion different from mine, I am learning a lot.
I am seeing many similarities between the two religions. I think people need to expand their knowledge. Knowledge in religion and in life. It expands your knowledge into other people's lives. I'm going to repeat myself, but I feel it's very important... Knowledge is power. Knowledge expands your knowledge of the world. You see how others see the world. You don't have to agree with them, or go with their views. Just knowing where they came from is important. And when you learn new things, you MAY see some similarities.
The topic I'm listening to is my friend telling her family & friends her religion.
Her experiences are interesting!
Until next time, expand your knowledge.
Right now, I am listening to a very interesting podcast. One of my friends practices a different religion from me. I am learning a lot from her podcast.
Even though it is a religion different from mine, I am learning a lot.
I am seeing many similarities between the two religions. I think people need to expand their knowledge. Knowledge in religion and in life. It expands your knowledge into other people's lives. I'm going to repeat myself, but I feel it's very important... Knowledge is power. Knowledge expands your knowledge of the world. You see how others see the world. You don't have to agree with them, or go with their views. Just knowing where they came from is important. And when you learn new things, you MAY see some similarities.
The topic I'm listening to is my friend telling her family & friends her religion.
Her experiences are interesting!
Until next time, expand your knowledge.
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
A very important relationship issue
Hi everyone. This entry will be a bit off topic again...
I have been reading the Bible lately. I am finding it VERY helpful to my life.
Right now I am reading a few remaining books in New Testament.
On Nov 2, I read Titus. It is short but gives you a lot to think about. A few lines talk about a key issue in relationships: trust.
"But avoid stupid arguments, long list of ancestors, quarrels, and fights about the Law. They are useless and worthless. Give at least two warnings to those who cause divisions, and then have nothing to do with them. You know that such people are corrupt, and their sins prove that they are wrong". (Titus 3:9-11)
When you are aware somone did something wrong, tell them. You bring it to their attention, when you tell them. If they forget, remind them a second time.
After you tell them, twice, they may realize that they did something wrong.
The key here is change and trust. If they apologize, you may want to continue the friendship/relationship... if you think they will change. If they do not apologize, and you don't think they will change, end the friendship/relationship. This may be hard to do, but it all boils down to trust. If trust gone, there is no friendship or relationship.
Do not automatically end the friendship/relationship based on one mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. If the person makes the same mistake twice, that's when you have to think. Do you think the other person will make the same mistake again?
And trust must be considered... Do you still trust the other person?
What do you think?
I have been reading the Bible lately. I am finding it VERY helpful to my life.
Right now I am reading a few remaining books in New Testament.
On Nov 2, I read Titus. It is short but gives you a lot to think about. A few lines talk about a key issue in relationships: trust.
"But avoid stupid arguments, long list of ancestors, quarrels, and fights about the Law. They are useless and worthless. Give at least two warnings to those who cause divisions, and then have nothing to do with them. You know that such people are corrupt, and their sins prove that they are wrong". (Titus 3:9-11)
When you are aware somone did something wrong, tell them. You bring it to their attention, when you tell them. If they forget, remind them a second time.
After you tell them, twice, they may realize that they did something wrong.
The key here is change and trust. If they apologize, you may want to continue the friendship/relationship... if you think they will change. If they do not apologize, and you don't think they will change, end the friendship/relationship. This may be hard to do, but it all boils down to trust. If trust gone, there is no friendship or relationship.
Do not automatically end the friendship/relationship based on one mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. If the person makes the same mistake twice, that's when you have to think. Do you think the other person will make the same mistake again?
And trust must be considered... Do you still trust the other person?
What do you think?
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Praying DOES work!
This entry is going to be a bit off topic, but that is why blogging is so fun!
How many of you have ever doubted prayer? Come on, I know you're out there!
I, myself, was one of them. As shocked as some of you may be, I was indeed doubtful of the power of prayer. I remember praying VERY hard for a boyfriend. I didn't ask for anything else, just a boyfriend. No boyfriend appeared and I was about to give up hope until June 23. God did bring me a boyfriend but it was NOT what I expected! The boyfriend lasted about 3 months. Yes, only 3 months! (I named him "my summer dud".) That lesson taught me to be more specific when I pray. Single women out there, don't just pray "bring me a boyfriend". No, no, no! Be specific, or you may end up like me and my "summer dud".
Hope you all go out and enjoy the fall weather before the snow starts to fly!
How many of you have ever doubted prayer? Come on, I know you're out there!
I, myself, was one of them. As shocked as some of you may be, I was indeed doubtful of the power of prayer. I remember praying VERY hard for a boyfriend. I didn't ask for anything else, just a boyfriend. No boyfriend appeared and I was about to give up hope until June 23. God did bring me a boyfriend but it was NOT what I expected! The boyfriend lasted about 3 months. Yes, only 3 months! (I named him "my summer dud".) That lesson taught me to be more specific when I pray. Single women out there, don't just pray "bring me a boyfriend". No, no, no! Be specific, or you may end up like me and my "summer dud".
Hope you all go out and enjoy the fall weather before the snow starts to fly!
Monday, October 19, 2009
Waiting is hard to do!!
Hi all. I know, I know. It's been some time since I last posted something but I haven't had much inspiration lately.
Today's blog will be about waiting. Waiting is very hard for most of us, myself included. Most people want things not later, now. Waiting is very important, both in romantic relationships and in life. Waiting builds character and we begin to appreciate things more. Sometimes we take things for granted, when it's been with us for awhile. Waiting makes us feel uncomfortable. Why? It makes us realize we are NOT in control. What happens after we wait, we have no control over. How we dislike not being in control!
Here's an example of what I mean, from my life. I have been unemployed for 3 months. I appreciate the things I could not do when I worked, such as creative writing. I'm discovering new things about myself I did not know before. I make jewelry now; necklaces, earrings, braclets, bookmarks. Being unemployed has also made me realize it's not in my control; I was not the one who caused my unemployment. From this unemployment, I'm growing closer to God.
Call on your higher power, whenever you are uncomfortable about waiting. I can guarantee you will feel better!
Today's blog will be about waiting. Waiting is very hard for most of us, myself included. Most people want things not later, now. Waiting is very important, both in romantic relationships and in life. Waiting builds character and we begin to appreciate things more. Sometimes we take things for granted, when it's been with us for awhile. Waiting makes us feel uncomfortable. Why? It makes us realize we are NOT in control. What happens after we wait, we have no control over. How we dislike not being in control!
Here's an example of what I mean, from my life. I have been unemployed for 3 months. I appreciate the things I could not do when I worked, such as creative writing. I'm discovering new things about myself I did not know before. I make jewelry now; necklaces, earrings, braclets, bookmarks. Being unemployed has also made me realize it's not in my control; I was not the one who caused my unemployment. From this unemployment, I'm growing closer to God.
Call on your higher power, whenever you are uncomfortable about waiting. I can guarantee you will feel better!
Friday, October 9, 2009
Public displays of affection
Hi everyone. The inspiration behind this post was from one of my ex boyfriends.
I was thinking about this the other day. How come Europeans are ok with public displays of affection, but most Americans are uncomfortable?? In Italy, for example, it's not so unusual to see two people kissing outside. They can be seen kissing in the square or in a restaurant.
My ex-boyfriend and I used to kiss all the time in public. I was not uncomfortable with it at all. I was very happy he felt so comfortable with me that he wanted to kiss me in public!!! The kissing wasn't anything heavy; just a short peck on the cheek. I just loved the reactions we would get!! Everything from a stern frown: "ew, not in my store".... to a huge grin: "aw, that's so cute"... to jealousy: "I wish MY boyfriend would do that to me". It goes without saying that I liked the huge grin reaction the most. From the list, the most common reaction was a stern frown: "ew... not in my store". I just do not understand why people are uncomfortable with it!!! If you like or love someone, why not??
What are YOUR opinions?
I was thinking about this the other day. How come Europeans are ok with public displays of affection, but most Americans are uncomfortable?? In Italy, for example, it's not so unusual to see two people kissing outside. They can be seen kissing in the square or in a restaurant.
My ex-boyfriend and I used to kiss all the time in public. I was not uncomfortable with it at all. I was very happy he felt so comfortable with me that he wanted to kiss me in public!!! The kissing wasn't anything heavy; just a short peck on the cheek. I just loved the reactions we would get!! Everything from a stern frown: "ew, not in my store".... to a huge grin: "aw, that's so cute"... to jealousy: "I wish MY boyfriend would do that to me". It goes without saying that I liked the huge grin reaction the most. From the list, the most common reaction was a stern frown: "ew... not in my store". I just do not understand why people are uncomfortable with it!!! If you like or love someone, why not??
What are YOUR opinions?
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
"If a man is cruel to you, does that mean he likes you?"
Hi everyone. I just saw the movie "He's Just Not That Into You". The movie inspired my thoughts for today's blog.
In the beginning of the movie, a character says "you know why that boy picked on you? It's because he likes you". The narrator states "this is where all women got messed up. We got this notion etched in our minds that when men treat us bad, they must like us".
After the movie, I thought back to my days as a child. I remembered something that happened when I was in 8th grade.
I had a crush on a boy named Nick and he used to tease me constantly, day in and day out. He teased me about everything. I remember one day running home from school and crying to my mom about it. She told me: "he likes you".
So the next day I was really nice to him; I even smiled at him. You know what happened? The same thing; he teased me. The next day I had the guts to talk to him. He worked on the school newspaper and I walked up to him. I gave him a big smile and asked him a question about the paper.
I still remember everything that happened next, many years later... I thought his eyes were going to pop out of his eye socket! His eyes opened wide and he laughed. All he did was laugh. It seemed like he laughed for hours.
I was so hurt after that! I no longer had a crush on Nick.
That one little incident made me realize, on my own, that when men are mean to you they are not interested.
That begs the question, why do mothers tell that lie to their children?? I understand that mothers want to comfort their child, but why lie to them? I'm willing to bet some women think this myth is true. Look at our society: some women are still married to men who beat them or their children.
What do YOU think?
In the beginning of the movie, a character says "you know why that boy picked on you? It's because he likes you". The narrator states "this is where all women got messed up. We got this notion etched in our minds that when men treat us bad, they must like us".
After the movie, I thought back to my days as a child. I remembered something that happened when I was in 8th grade.
I had a crush on a boy named Nick and he used to tease me constantly, day in and day out. He teased me about everything. I remember one day running home from school and crying to my mom about it. She told me: "he likes you".
So the next day I was really nice to him; I even smiled at him. You know what happened? The same thing; he teased me. The next day I had the guts to talk to him. He worked on the school newspaper and I walked up to him. I gave him a big smile and asked him a question about the paper.
I still remember everything that happened next, many years later... I thought his eyes were going to pop out of his eye socket! His eyes opened wide and he laughed. All he did was laugh. It seemed like he laughed for hours.
I was so hurt after that! I no longer had a crush on Nick.
That one little incident made me realize, on my own, that when men are mean to you they are not interested.
That begs the question, why do mothers tell that lie to their children?? I understand that mothers want to comfort their child, but why lie to them? I'm willing to bet some women think this myth is true. Look at our society: some women are still married to men who beat them or their children.
What do YOU think?
Friday, September 25, 2009
Living single
Being single is ok. The media will have you thinking "I must have a relationship! If I don't have one, I will be lonely". NO, NO, NO!!! You will not be lonely when you are single, I can guarantee it. You may be thinking "how can you guarantee it?" Several reasons...
When you are in a relationship, you always compromise. You have the other person to think about, not just yourself. When you're single, if you want to try the new seafood restaurant, you can. If you feel like treating yourself to a massage, you can.
You will not feel lonely when you are single. You have friends. True friends will be there for you, thru both the good and bad times. You can count on them for having fun!
If you have a particular religion, you have time to get more deeper. You have time to read your important religious texts and communicate with your God. Yes, you can communicate with your God. Your God wants you to talk to Him. Any time you may feel lonely, know that your god always wants to tell you something new.
Being single also brings out your true self. You begin to discover the personality traits you never knew you had. It's another great time to re-evaluate the important qualities you're seeking from the opposite sex.
When you are in a relationship, you always compromise. You have the other person to think about, not just yourself. When you're single, if you want to try the new seafood restaurant, you can. If you feel like treating yourself to a massage, you can.
You will not feel lonely when you are single. You have friends. True friends will be there for you, thru both the good and bad times. You can count on them for having fun!
If you have a particular religion, you have time to get more deeper. You have time to read your important religious texts and communicate with your God. Yes, you can communicate with your God. Your God wants you to talk to Him. Any time you may feel lonely, know that your god always wants to tell you something new.
Being single also brings out your true self. You begin to discover the personality traits you never knew you had. It's another great time to re-evaluate the important qualities you're seeking from the opposite sex.
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Relationships can be challenging!!
Hi everyone. This blog will discuss the many challenges of a relationship.
Experience has taught me that the best romantic relationships start out as friendship. Friendship is the first step. You get to know the other person, without the pressure of romance.
(There is no pressure to be romantic.)
When you're getting to know the other person, feelings may come up.
It's really tricky when feelings come up. You want the other person to know, but you don't want to ruin the friendship. You take things slow. There are ways to find out if the other person likes you more than a friend, both non-verbal ways and physical ways (see flirting blog). If there are feelings from both of you, things can move forward into a romantic relationship.
If one person likes the other person romanticly but the other one does not, then staying friends is the best thing.
Being friends with the opposite sex is very beneficial. You get "inside info" into the opposite sex, without any romantic feelings and you get to have fun. :-)
Any comments?
Experience has taught me that the best romantic relationships start out as friendship. Friendship is the first step. You get to know the other person, without the pressure of romance.
(There is no pressure to be romantic.)
When you're getting to know the other person, feelings may come up.
It's really tricky when feelings come up. You want the other person to know, but you don't want to ruin the friendship. You take things slow. There are ways to find out if the other person likes you more than a friend, both non-verbal ways and physical ways (see flirting blog). If there are feelings from both of you, things can move forward into a romantic relationship.
If one person likes the other person romanticly but the other one does not, then staying friends is the best thing.
Being friends with the opposite sex is very beneficial. You get "inside info" into the opposite sex, without any romantic feelings and you get to have fun. :-)
Any comments?
Saturday, September 5, 2009
Love in the World
Hi everyone! This blog will entry will be about "love".
First off, love is such a complicated subject!! The love I will be talking about is that of 2 people in love and also people who want love.
Being in love is one of the greatest feelings in the world; don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Being in love is wonderful!! You have some who cares about you and will be there through the happy and tough times in life. You also care about the other person.
Being in love, in a relationship, requires give and take. If Scott wants to see the latest action movie, Kate says "ok" because they already saw the latest chick-flick.
Two people in love truly care about each other. They respect each other and share life experiences with each other. Respecting one another means they would never hurt one another, whether it be physically or emotionally.
On the other hand, there are peole who want love. Those are the types of people who will stop at nothing to get what they want. And they ultimately want "love". I'm not saying those people are wrong, because they're not; everyone wants to be loved. It is wrong when they go about it in the wrong way. What I mean is this... some women think "I NEED a man. I can't be alone. I want a man to love me. I need a man." In other words, some women think they need a man to validate who they are as a person. This is not right!!!
Personal story: I was alone for 10 years before I met the man I'm with now. I needed to be alone to figure out who I was and what I wanted in a man. In those 10 years, I discovered who I was and what I wanted in a man. Because of that discovery time, I can give 100% of myself to the man I'm with now.
Women do not need a man to validate who they are. Being alone is not bad!! Everyone, men and women, need to figure out who they are before they make a commitment. Love is a great treasure. As the Bible says "Love is patient, Love is kind. It is not boastful".
If you are in a relationship that is going nowhere, get out. I realize it's easier said than done but think about it... Would you rather be in a relationship where you're loved OR one that you're treated like a piece of dirt????
What are YOUR comments?
First off, love is such a complicated subject!! The love I will be talking about is that of 2 people in love and also people who want love.
Being in love is one of the greatest feelings in the world; don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Being in love is wonderful!! You have some who cares about you and will be there through the happy and tough times in life. You also care about the other person.
Being in love, in a relationship, requires give and take. If Scott wants to see the latest action movie, Kate says "ok" because they already saw the latest chick-flick.
Two people in love truly care about each other. They respect each other and share life experiences with each other. Respecting one another means they would never hurt one another, whether it be physically or emotionally.
On the other hand, there are peole who want love. Those are the types of people who will stop at nothing to get what they want. And they ultimately want "love". I'm not saying those people are wrong, because they're not; everyone wants to be loved. It is wrong when they go about it in the wrong way. What I mean is this... some women think "I NEED a man. I can't be alone. I want a man to love me. I need a man." In other words, some women think they need a man to validate who they are as a person. This is not right!!!
Personal story: I was alone for 10 years before I met the man I'm with now. I needed to be alone to figure out who I was and what I wanted in a man. In those 10 years, I discovered who I was and what I wanted in a man. Because of that discovery time, I can give 100% of myself to the man I'm with now.
Women do not need a man to validate who they are. Being alone is not bad!! Everyone, men and women, need to figure out who they are before they make a commitment. Love is a great treasure. As the Bible says "Love is patient, Love is kind. It is not boastful".
If you are in a relationship that is going nowhere, get out. I realize it's easier said than done but think about it... Would you rather be in a relationship where you're loved OR one that you're treated like a piece of dirt????
What are YOUR comments?
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Memorable dates...
Hi all. Dates can be fun, they can be boring, they can be bad. Dating is just a fancy word to say "getting to really know someone". I'm sure there have been times when we've thought, "What was I thinking going out with him/her?".
Today's blog will be a short true story about one of my most memorable dates. (Memorable in the "not so good" sense). The names have been changed to protect the identity, but the story is true.
One day, Bob asked me out. He told me we were going out to a restaurant. While getting ready for my date, I thought: "Great!! We're going to the new expensive down-town place. I can't wait!". He picked me up and I wore a dark blue tee-shirt and black jeans... I wanted to be casual, yet stylish. Bob told me to keep my eyes closed as we drove. I did what he said and closed my eyes. We got to the restaurant a few minutes later and I still had my eyes covered. He then told me to open my eyes. I opened my eyes and saw the restaurant!! We pulled up to Culvers. I faked a shocked look by "seeming to" yawn. (It gets even better!!)
I asked Bob "we're eating here?" He smiled at me and said, "Yeah. You got a problem with it?"
I shook my head because what else was I going to do? I didn't want to piss him off because he was my date.
We got in line to order. After we ordered, we sat down and that's when Bob told me why we were here. "I had a coupon and the coupon expires tomorrow so that's why we're at Culvers".
You can imagine what I thought!!! "You pig and idiot!!! You take me to a restaurant because your STUPID coupon was to expire tomorrow?!?!?"
On the way home from our "date", no one spoke. (It was so quiet, you could hear a pin drop.)
We got to my house and Bob did not open my door. As I opened the car door, we said a quiet "good-bye" and no kiss.
What was YOUR most memorable date? (Can be good, bad, funny, silly, whatever)
Today's blog will be a short true story about one of my most memorable dates. (Memorable in the "not so good" sense). The names have been changed to protect the identity, but the story is true.
One day, Bob asked me out. He told me we were going out to a restaurant. While getting ready for my date, I thought: "Great!! We're going to the new expensive down-town place. I can't wait!". He picked me up and I wore a dark blue tee-shirt and black jeans... I wanted to be casual, yet stylish. Bob told me to keep my eyes closed as we drove. I did what he said and closed my eyes. We got to the restaurant a few minutes later and I still had my eyes covered. He then told me to open my eyes. I opened my eyes and saw the restaurant!! We pulled up to Culvers. I faked a shocked look by "seeming to" yawn. (It gets even better!!)
I asked Bob "we're eating here?" He smiled at me and said, "Yeah. You got a problem with it?"
I shook my head because what else was I going to do? I didn't want to piss him off because he was my date.
We got in line to order. After we ordered, we sat down and that's when Bob told me why we were here. "I had a coupon and the coupon expires tomorrow so that's why we're at Culvers".
You can imagine what I thought!!! "You pig and idiot!!! You take me to a restaurant because your STUPID coupon was to expire tomorrow?!?!?"
On the way home from our "date", no one spoke. (It was so quiet, you could hear a pin drop.)
We got to my house and Bob did not open my door. As I opened the car door, we said a quiet "good-bye" and no kiss.
What was YOUR most memorable date? (Can be good, bad, funny, silly, whatever)
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
The "art" of flirting
Hi everyone. Let's talk about the single side of relationships... specifically, getting a relationship.
Flirting is a crucial aspect of getting a relationship. As we all know, flirting grabs the attention of the other person.
Let's say you want to grab the attention of the person across the room. What do you do?
First, make some eye contact with the person. Once the other person is looking in your direction, smile!! Smiling makes you seem approachable and more confident. If you're a woman, play with your hair or pull on an earring. If the other person is really intrigued by you, he/she may walk over to you!!
What do you do once he/she walks over to you? Let's face it; we all get nervous around strangers! The best thing to do is say "hi" and ask for advice. If you're in the hair care aisle, ask what shampoo is the best to use. If you're in the store for a gift for someone, ask the person what he/she thinks is a good gift.
Once you have their attention, simply ask for their phone number. Sound a little bold? If you want to get to know the person, you're going to have to ask for their number sooner or later.
Do YOU have any advice on a great way to flirt? Have a crazy story you'd like to share?
Feel free to comment!!
Flirting is a crucial aspect of getting a relationship. As we all know, flirting grabs the attention of the other person.
Let's say you want to grab the attention of the person across the room. What do you do?
First, make some eye contact with the person. Once the other person is looking in your direction, smile!! Smiling makes you seem approachable and more confident. If you're a woman, play with your hair or pull on an earring. If the other person is really intrigued by you, he/she may walk over to you!!
What do you do once he/she walks over to you? Let's face it; we all get nervous around strangers! The best thing to do is say "hi" and ask for advice. If you're in the hair care aisle, ask what shampoo is the best to use. If you're in the store for a gift for someone, ask the person what he/she thinks is a good gift.
Once you have their attention, simply ask for their phone number. Sound a little bold? If you want to get to know the person, you're going to have to ask for their number sooner or later.
Do YOU have any advice on a great way to flirt? Have a crazy story you'd like to share?
Feel free to comment!!
Monday, August 31, 2009
Relationships are great!!
Hi everyone. Thanks for reading my blog! This edition will emphasize the positive sides of relationships.
No matter what people say, relationships are good. Relationships are good when both people see "eye to eye". When both people respect each other, the relationship works. When only one person respects, the relationship is doomed.
There are 2 key elements to a strong relationship: respect and communication. If both people don't respect, and care for each other, the relationship is not strong. Respect goes hand-in-hand with being nice. What I mean is this... say you're sick and your significant other is healthy. Your significant other should be there for you; giving you chicken soup or time to rest (whatever is needed). Respect also means understanding the other person's opinions. Not everything will be agreed on, but opinions must be understood.
Communication is another crucial part to a healthy relationship. Both people must communicate. Simple as that! If there is something bothering you, you should talk to him/her about it. Don't do something stupid like post evil comments about him/her on an internet site.
Doing that, posting something for all the world to see, is NOT right!! You must talk to your significant other to get the issue resolved.
Relationships are to be nurtured. Relationships take time. When you get right down to it, relationships are great!!
What are your comments?
No matter what people say, relationships are good. Relationships are good when both people see "eye to eye". When both people respect each other, the relationship works. When only one person respects, the relationship is doomed.
There are 2 key elements to a strong relationship: respect and communication. If both people don't respect, and care for each other, the relationship is not strong. Respect goes hand-in-hand with being nice. What I mean is this... say you're sick and your significant other is healthy. Your significant other should be there for you; giving you chicken soup or time to rest (whatever is needed). Respect also means understanding the other person's opinions. Not everything will be agreed on, but opinions must be understood.
Communication is another crucial part to a healthy relationship. Both people must communicate. Simple as that! If there is something bothering you, you should talk to him/her about it. Don't do something stupid like post evil comments about him/her on an internet site.
Doing that, posting something for all the world to see, is NOT right!! You must talk to your significant other to get the issue resolved.
Relationships are to be nurtured. Relationships take time. When you get right down to it, relationships are great!!
What are your comments?
Saturday, August 29, 2009
Welcome to "The World of Relationships"
Welcome to "The World of Relationships"!!
Thank you for reading the first entry of this blog.
It will consist of thoughts and feelings about relationships. The thoughts will be from myself, as well as you the readers.
This blog will be interactive. If there is something you'd like to share, feel free to do so. If you have an idea for a future blog, let me know. I want this blog to be about sharing experiences.
Now, onto the first edition of "The World of Relationships"...
Relationships... what are they really??? Boy meets girl, girl falls in love with boy, end of story... right? Wrong!!! If only relationships were that simple!!!
Relationships, like people, are very complex!! Things can be going so well and then......
BAM!!! Something happens to make it seem like hell on earth.
Sometimes we can get the idea that we are dating MR or MS right. We think "he/she is SO great!! I so love him/her!! He/she is the one!!" Then when things go wrong, our bubble is burst. First things first. Sometimes we get this "idea in our head" that we are dating mr or ms right. What sometimes happens is we forget that the person we are dating has flaws. We begin to realize that the person we are dating is not who we thought they were. Sometimes we may get a false sense of the person. We imagine that they are someone they are not. We over-look the flaws they have and think "they can change" OR "I don't see it, so it's not there".
Wake up people and smell the roses!!! Relationships take time and effort. Always take things slow. Get to know the person you are dating before jumping in head-first. What do you think??
Thank you for reading the first entry of this blog.
It will consist of thoughts and feelings about relationships. The thoughts will be from myself, as well as you the readers.
This blog will be interactive. If there is something you'd like to share, feel free to do so. If you have an idea for a future blog, let me know. I want this blog to be about sharing experiences.
Now, onto the first edition of "The World of Relationships"...
Relationships... what are they really??? Boy meets girl, girl falls in love with boy, end of story... right? Wrong!!! If only relationships were that simple!!!
Relationships, like people, are very complex!! Things can be going so well and then......
BAM!!! Something happens to make it seem like hell on earth.
Sometimes we can get the idea that we are dating MR or MS right. We think "he/she is SO great!! I so love him/her!! He/she is the one!!" Then when things go wrong, our bubble is burst. First things first. Sometimes we get this "idea in our head" that we are dating mr or ms right. What sometimes happens is we forget that the person we are dating has flaws. We begin to realize that the person we are dating is not who we thought they were. Sometimes we may get a false sense of the person. We imagine that they are someone they are not. We over-look the flaws they have and think "they can change" OR "I don't see it, so it's not there".
Wake up people and smell the roses!!! Relationships take time and effort. Always take things slow. Get to know the person you are dating before jumping in head-first. What do you think??
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