Being single is ok. The media will have you thinking "I must have a relationship! If I don't have one, I will be lonely". NO, NO, NO!!! You will not be lonely when you are single, I can guarantee it. You may be thinking "how can you guarantee it?" Several reasons...
When you are in a relationship, you always compromise. You have the other person to think about, not just yourself. When you're single, if you want to try the new seafood restaurant, you can. If you feel like treating yourself to a massage, you can.
You will not feel lonely when you are single. You have friends. True friends will be there for you, thru both the good and bad times. You can count on them for having fun!
If you have a particular religion, you have time to get more deeper. You have time to read your important religious texts and communicate with your God. Yes, you can communicate with your God. Your God wants you to talk to Him. Any time you may feel lonely, know that your god always wants to tell you something new.
Being single also brings out your true self. You begin to discover the personality traits you never knew you had. It's another great time to re-evaluate the important qualities you're seeking from the opposite sex.
Friday, September 25, 2009
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Relationships can be challenging!!
Hi everyone. This blog will discuss the many challenges of a relationship.
Experience has taught me that the best romantic relationships start out as friendship. Friendship is the first step. You get to know the other person, without the pressure of romance.
(There is no pressure to be romantic.)
When you're getting to know the other person, feelings may come up.
It's really tricky when feelings come up. You want the other person to know, but you don't want to ruin the friendship. You take things slow. There are ways to find out if the other person likes you more than a friend, both non-verbal ways and physical ways (see flirting blog). If there are feelings from both of you, things can move forward into a romantic relationship.
If one person likes the other person romanticly but the other one does not, then staying friends is the best thing.
Being friends with the opposite sex is very beneficial. You get "inside info" into the opposite sex, without any romantic feelings and you get to have fun. :-)
Any comments?
Experience has taught me that the best romantic relationships start out as friendship. Friendship is the first step. You get to know the other person, without the pressure of romance.
(There is no pressure to be romantic.)
When you're getting to know the other person, feelings may come up.
It's really tricky when feelings come up. You want the other person to know, but you don't want to ruin the friendship. You take things slow. There are ways to find out if the other person likes you more than a friend, both non-verbal ways and physical ways (see flirting blog). If there are feelings from both of you, things can move forward into a romantic relationship.
If one person likes the other person romanticly but the other one does not, then staying friends is the best thing.
Being friends with the opposite sex is very beneficial. You get "inside info" into the opposite sex, without any romantic feelings and you get to have fun. :-)
Any comments?
Saturday, September 5, 2009
Love in the World
Hi everyone! This blog will entry will be about "love".
First off, love is such a complicated subject!! The love I will be talking about is that of 2 people in love and also people who want love.
Being in love is one of the greatest feelings in the world; don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Being in love is wonderful!! You have some who cares about you and will be there through the happy and tough times in life. You also care about the other person.
Being in love, in a relationship, requires give and take. If Scott wants to see the latest action movie, Kate says "ok" because they already saw the latest chick-flick.
Two people in love truly care about each other. They respect each other and share life experiences with each other. Respecting one another means they would never hurt one another, whether it be physically or emotionally.
On the other hand, there are peole who want love. Those are the types of people who will stop at nothing to get what they want. And they ultimately want "love". I'm not saying those people are wrong, because they're not; everyone wants to be loved. It is wrong when they go about it in the wrong way. What I mean is this... some women think "I NEED a man. I can't be alone. I want a man to love me. I need a man." In other words, some women think they need a man to validate who they are as a person. This is not right!!!
Personal story: I was alone for 10 years before I met the man I'm with now. I needed to be alone to figure out who I was and what I wanted in a man. In those 10 years, I discovered who I was and what I wanted in a man. Because of that discovery time, I can give 100% of myself to the man I'm with now.
Women do not need a man to validate who they are. Being alone is not bad!! Everyone, men and women, need to figure out who they are before they make a commitment. Love is a great treasure. As the Bible says "Love is patient, Love is kind. It is not boastful".
If you are in a relationship that is going nowhere, get out. I realize it's easier said than done but think about it... Would you rather be in a relationship where you're loved OR one that you're treated like a piece of dirt????
What are YOUR comments?
First off, love is such a complicated subject!! The love I will be talking about is that of 2 people in love and also people who want love.
Being in love is one of the greatest feelings in the world; don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Being in love is wonderful!! You have some who cares about you and will be there through the happy and tough times in life. You also care about the other person.
Being in love, in a relationship, requires give and take. If Scott wants to see the latest action movie, Kate says "ok" because they already saw the latest chick-flick.
Two people in love truly care about each other. They respect each other and share life experiences with each other. Respecting one another means they would never hurt one another, whether it be physically or emotionally.
On the other hand, there are peole who want love. Those are the types of people who will stop at nothing to get what they want. And they ultimately want "love". I'm not saying those people are wrong, because they're not; everyone wants to be loved. It is wrong when they go about it in the wrong way. What I mean is this... some women think "I NEED a man. I can't be alone. I want a man to love me. I need a man." In other words, some women think they need a man to validate who they are as a person. This is not right!!!
Personal story: I was alone for 10 years before I met the man I'm with now. I needed to be alone to figure out who I was and what I wanted in a man. In those 10 years, I discovered who I was and what I wanted in a man. Because of that discovery time, I can give 100% of myself to the man I'm with now.
Women do not need a man to validate who they are. Being alone is not bad!! Everyone, men and women, need to figure out who they are before they make a commitment. Love is a great treasure. As the Bible says "Love is patient, Love is kind. It is not boastful".
If you are in a relationship that is going nowhere, get out. I realize it's easier said than done but think about it... Would you rather be in a relationship where you're loved OR one that you're treated like a piece of dirt????
What are YOUR comments?
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Memorable dates...
Hi all. Dates can be fun, they can be boring, they can be bad. Dating is just a fancy word to say "getting to really know someone". I'm sure there have been times when we've thought, "What was I thinking going out with him/her?".
Today's blog will be a short true story about one of my most memorable dates. (Memorable in the "not so good" sense). The names have been changed to protect the identity, but the story is true.
One day, Bob asked me out. He told me we were going out to a restaurant. While getting ready for my date, I thought: "Great!! We're going to the new expensive down-town place. I can't wait!". He picked me up and I wore a dark blue tee-shirt and black jeans... I wanted to be casual, yet stylish. Bob told me to keep my eyes closed as we drove. I did what he said and closed my eyes. We got to the restaurant a few minutes later and I still had my eyes covered. He then told me to open my eyes. I opened my eyes and saw the restaurant!! We pulled up to Culvers. I faked a shocked look by "seeming to" yawn. (It gets even better!!)
I asked Bob "we're eating here?" He smiled at me and said, "Yeah. You got a problem with it?"
I shook my head because what else was I going to do? I didn't want to piss him off because he was my date.
We got in line to order. After we ordered, we sat down and that's when Bob told me why we were here. "I had a coupon and the coupon expires tomorrow so that's why we're at Culvers".
You can imagine what I thought!!! "You pig and idiot!!! You take me to a restaurant because your STUPID coupon was to expire tomorrow?!?!?"
On the way home from our "date", no one spoke. (It was so quiet, you could hear a pin drop.)
We got to my house and Bob did not open my door. As I opened the car door, we said a quiet "good-bye" and no kiss.
What was YOUR most memorable date? (Can be good, bad, funny, silly, whatever)
Today's blog will be a short true story about one of my most memorable dates. (Memorable in the "not so good" sense). The names have been changed to protect the identity, but the story is true.
One day, Bob asked me out. He told me we were going out to a restaurant. While getting ready for my date, I thought: "Great!! We're going to the new expensive down-town place. I can't wait!". He picked me up and I wore a dark blue tee-shirt and black jeans... I wanted to be casual, yet stylish. Bob told me to keep my eyes closed as we drove. I did what he said and closed my eyes. We got to the restaurant a few minutes later and I still had my eyes covered. He then told me to open my eyes. I opened my eyes and saw the restaurant!! We pulled up to Culvers. I faked a shocked look by "seeming to" yawn. (It gets even better!!)
I asked Bob "we're eating here?" He smiled at me and said, "Yeah. You got a problem with it?"
I shook my head because what else was I going to do? I didn't want to piss him off because he was my date.
We got in line to order. After we ordered, we sat down and that's when Bob told me why we were here. "I had a coupon and the coupon expires tomorrow so that's why we're at Culvers".
You can imagine what I thought!!! "You pig and idiot!!! You take me to a restaurant because your STUPID coupon was to expire tomorrow?!?!?"
On the way home from our "date", no one spoke. (It was so quiet, you could hear a pin drop.)
We got to my house and Bob did not open my door. As I opened the car door, we said a quiet "good-bye" and no kiss.
What was YOUR most memorable date? (Can be good, bad, funny, silly, whatever)
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
The "art" of flirting
Hi everyone. Let's talk about the single side of relationships... specifically, getting a relationship.
Flirting is a crucial aspect of getting a relationship. As we all know, flirting grabs the attention of the other person.
Let's say you want to grab the attention of the person across the room. What do you do?
First, make some eye contact with the person. Once the other person is looking in your direction, smile!! Smiling makes you seem approachable and more confident. If you're a woman, play with your hair or pull on an earring. If the other person is really intrigued by you, he/she may walk over to you!!
What do you do once he/she walks over to you? Let's face it; we all get nervous around strangers! The best thing to do is say "hi" and ask for advice. If you're in the hair care aisle, ask what shampoo is the best to use. If you're in the store for a gift for someone, ask the person what he/she thinks is a good gift.
Once you have their attention, simply ask for their phone number. Sound a little bold? If you want to get to know the person, you're going to have to ask for their number sooner or later.
Do YOU have any advice on a great way to flirt? Have a crazy story you'd like to share?
Feel free to comment!!
Flirting is a crucial aspect of getting a relationship. As we all know, flirting grabs the attention of the other person.
Let's say you want to grab the attention of the person across the room. What do you do?
First, make some eye contact with the person. Once the other person is looking in your direction, smile!! Smiling makes you seem approachable and more confident. If you're a woman, play with your hair or pull on an earring. If the other person is really intrigued by you, he/she may walk over to you!!
What do you do once he/she walks over to you? Let's face it; we all get nervous around strangers! The best thing to do is say "hi" and ask for advice. If you're in the hair care aisle, ask what shampoo is the best to use. If you're in the store for a gift for someone, ask the person what he/she thinks is a good gift.
Once you have their attention, simply ask for their phone number. Sound a little bold? If you want to get to know the person, you're going to have to ask for their number sooner or later.
Do YOU have any advice on a great way to flirt? Have a crazy story you'd like to share?
Feel free to comment!!
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